Category Archives: Relationships

What messages are you sending?

The dominant thought principle is often discussed with reference to building self-confidence. Put simply, if you are thinking negatively eg Why am I so unlucky in life?, you are more likely to see the misfortunes in your life. Whereas if … Continue reading

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Incidental couple time

The benefits of incidental exercise have been drummed into us for years – get off the bus early and walk the rest of the way; take the stairs instead of the lift; get out of your chair and walk to … Continue reading

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Helping others to move on

A woman recently told me that she was shocked to learn that her adult daughter was still upset about a minor incident that happened 30 years ago. The daughter had actually made frequent references to the fact that her brother … Continue reading

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Fighting in front of children

The goal for most parents is to shield children from arguments. New parents often reassure me that they aim to never fight in front of the children. They are often surprised to hear my response, which is: There is much … Continue reading

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Joint decisions

In an ideal world, couples would agree on everything. In Utopia, compatibility and commitment would mean that decisions about how many children to have, where to live, or what to spend money on would be so simple because your thinking … Continue reading

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Let your partner be the first to know

Intimacy means sharing. The more you share with your partner, the closer you’ll be. If you are feeling disconnected from one another, think about how much you’re sharing. When something good happens in your day, who do you tell? If … Continue reading

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When friends become family

Is blood thicker than water? Most people dream of being part of a close family. The idea of having a sister or brother who is more like a best friend sounds perfect. Family members who live close to one another … Continue reading

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The agony of limbo

We don’t cope very well with being in limbo. Waiting to find out whether we have secured the position or won the award can be difficult. Learning that your partner is deciding whether they are going or staying is agony. … Continue reading

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The “friendzone”

I had no idea that there was a term for that unhealthy relationship where two friends do everything together, yet one is secretly in love with the other. But apparently this scenario is called the “friendzone”. It may have a … Continue reading

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Unattainable closure

I just want closure is something I often hear. And by the use of the adverb “just,” there is the inference that closure should be easy to attain. Romantic comedies and sitcoms are partly responsible for the spread of this … Continue reading

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