Category Archives: Life lessons

As a clinical psychologist, I’m often seeing individuals who are caring for a loved one. Their partner or parent or child might have a chronic illness, which may or may not be terminal. Most people know by now that it … Continue reading →

It may come as a surprise to many people to learn that one of the worst questions you can ask another person is: What have you been up to? It’s a really common thing to ask; a bit like: How … Continue reading →

Avoidance is an excellent strategy if we’re referring to staying out of dangerous situations. But avoidance should often be avoided! Avoiding anxiety-provoking situations increases anxiety. Avoiding difficult conversations with your partner, friend, child or colleague can allow situations to become … Continue reading →

I’ve had a week hearing about good things happening for many of my friends. These are people I love. Why does my mind take a brief detour on the way to being so pleased for them? Why is there that … Continue reading →

When a friend or family member seems upset or angry, do you worry that you might somehow be the cause of their pain? What have I done to upset them? Did I say the wrong thing? How often do you … Continue reading →

The sad truth about people who try to please everyone is that they often end up letting others down. So the thing they fear the most ends up happening. Sadly, the most important people in their lives are often the … Continue reading →