Category Archives: Life lessons

Who cares for the carers?

As a clinical psychologist, I’m often seeing individuals who are caring for a loved one. Their partner or parent or child might have a chronic illness, which may or may not be terminal. Most people know by now that it … Continue reading

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What have you been up to?

It may come as a surprise to many people to learn that one of the worst questions you can ask another person is: What have you been up to? It’s a really common thing to ask; a bit like: How … Continue reading

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The danger of avoidance

Avoidance is an excellent strategy if we’re referring to staying out of dangerous situations. But avoidance should often be avoided! Avoiding anxiety-provoking situations increases anxiety. Avoiding difficult conversations with your partner, friend, child or colleague can allow situations to become … Continue reading

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Being pleased for others

I’ve had a week hearing about good things happening for many of my friends. These are people I love. Why does my mind take a brief detour on the way to being so pleased for them? Why is there that … Continue reading

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One celebration at a time

My best friend in high school was a brilliant sportswoman. She could play any sport well, but she was incredibly humble. I was appalling at sport and I was in awe of her ability. I knew whenever she had an … Continue reading

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Empathy boosts your self-esteem

When a friend or family member seems upset or angry, do you worry that you might somehow be the cause of their pain? What have I done to upset them? Did I say the wrong thing? How often do you … Continue reading

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People pleasers often disappoint

The sad truth about people who try to please everyone is that they often end up letting others down. So the thing they fear the most ends up happening. Sadly, the most important people in their lives are often the … Continue reading

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My empty nest

Life as I know it has changed. My youngest has finished school and has turned 18. She and her brother are doing exactly what they’re supposed to be doing – living life as young adults. I’m happy for them and … Continue reading

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Just don’t ask

When are you going to have kids? Are you going to have another child? Have you thought about adoption? What about IVF? Are you going to get married? Did your house sell? Did you get the job? Why do we … Continue reading

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University is not for everyone

My daughter is finishing school this year. She has enjoyed school, but like most 18 year olds, she is more than ready to leave. She has a clear idea of what she wants to do next. Her dad and I … Continue reading

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