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Author Archives: Jo Lamble
Lighten up
We laugh a lot in counselling sessions. Despite the intensity of the discussions, there is nearly always something to laugh at. We laugh at the trivial things that trigger such strong reactions. We laugh at how unrealistic expectations can be. … Continue reading
The dangers of defensiveness
Most of us do it. We automatically become defensive at the slightest hint of criticism. We cannot bear to leave an accusation hanging in the air, no matter how trivial that accusation may be. We falsely believe that by defending … Continue reading
Is life what you expected?
A woman told me this week that life had not turned out how she had expected. She was reluctant to attend a school reunion because she feared that her old classmates would be shocked at how she had turned out. … Continue reading
Mixed messages
Most of us have been confused by mixed messages at some point in our lives. Most commonly, mixed messages can be sent out in the early days of a relationship or around the time of a break-up. But while we … Continue reading
Is it ever okay to gossip?
I had an email this week from someone wanting to know the dos and don’ts of talking about people behind their backs. Obviously there are times when we speak of others to our friends, family and workmates. On many occasions, … Continue reading
When stressed – add something to your day
Whenever we are feeling overwhelmed, we immediately think about what we could drop from our schedule. Do I have to clean the house today? Can I skip that meeting? Maybe I won’t go to the gym this afternoon. Unfortunately, deleting … Continue reading
Ask a person in need for help
When we need help, we usually steer clear of those who are in obvious need themselves. If we lose a loved one for example, we don’t want to burden a friend who is also grieving. If we need someone to … Continue reading
Advertise adulthood
What do our children think when they look at us? They see stressed and tired adults with a never ending list of chores. They hear us apologising for having to stay late at work and complaining about our jobs. They … Continue reading
In-laws
It should come as no surprise that many people have relationship difficulties with their in-laws. Why should the families of the two people who have decided to spend their life together necessarily get on? Sometimes, it seems that all you … Continue reading
Bringing out the best in each other
Do you like who you’ve become since you and your partner have been together? Do you partially credit your partner for helping you become nicer, more tolerant, calmer, more courageous and adventurous, less chaotic, more creative, more confident, or simply … Continue reading