Category Archives: Relationships

Sabotaging relationships

Are you a saboteur? Perhaps you don’t even realise that you are sabotaging perfectly good relationships in an effort to protect yourself. In a nutshell, sabotage is the attempt to control the uncontrollable. When we fear getting hurt by someone … Continue reading

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Say what you see

Some of the loveliest people can find it difficult to show empathy when it’s needed. If they see a loved one hurting, they hurt. If they are the person responsible for causing that pain, they feel even worse. When ashamed … Continue reading

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Being pleased for others

I’ve had a week hearing about good things happening for many of my friends. These are people I love. Why does my mind take a brief detour on the way to being so pleased for them? Why is there that … Continue reading

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Getting closer

Whether it’s a friend you want to get to know on a deeper level or you yearn for a closer relationship with your partner, increased intimacy is the way to go. If we take intimacy to mean sharing, then we … Continue reading

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Empathy boosts your self-esteem

When a friend or family member seems upset or angry, do you worry that you might somehow be the cause of their pain? What have I done to upset them? Did I say the wrong thing? How often do you … Continue reading

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People pleasers often disappoint

The sad truth about people who try to please everyone is that they often end up letting others down. So the thing they fear the most ends up happening. Sadly, the most important people in their lives are often the … Continue reading

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Money matters

Most families these days have dual incomes at some stage and rarely are these incomes equal. In the couples I see, the money is most commonly managed by the higher income earner. Sometimes, the money is kept in separate personal … Continue reading

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What can I do to fix this situation?

It’s perfectly normal to be frustrated by our partner’s behaviour or that of a colleague or friend. Many of us believe that we understand why the other person behaves the way they do and know what they have to do … Continue reading

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It’s hard to appreciate what you didn’t ask for

How often have you felt annoyed that your efforts to please another person weren’t appreciated? Perhaps you offered to help someone move house only to receive little thanks at the end of the day.  Maybe you spend hours dreaming up … Continue reading

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Introducing my new book

Do you want to improve your relationship? Are there issues that keep coming up and never get resolved? Do you think it’s too late? Or maybe you believe things are pretty good, so if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. … Continue reading

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