Author Archives: Jo Lamble

What pushes your partner’s buttons?

Having trouble showing your partner empathy? Here’s a powerful exercise for the two of you to practice. Without discussing it with each other, write down a list of everything that causes your partner pain. What upsets him or her? What … Continue reading

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Lying

Lying for some people is a deal breaker in a relationship. If you lie, I can’t trust you – full stop. For others, there are degrees of lying. Saying that you left the office at 6pm when you really left … Continue reading

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Joint decision-making about money

Think you and your partner are making joint decisions when it comes to the household budget? What does your partner think? Let’s look at a case study: Michael is the main breadwinner and Sally works part-time and is the primary … Continue reading

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Sabotaging relationships

Are you a saboteur? Perhaps you don’t even realise that you are sabotaging perfectly good relationships in an effort to protect yourself. In a nutshell, sabotage is the attempt to control the uncontrollable. When we fear getting hurt by someone … Continue reading

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Say what you see

Some of the loveliest people can find it difficult to show empathy when it’s needed. If they see a loved one hurting, they hurt. If they are the person responsible for causing that pain, they feel even worse. When ashamed … Continue reading

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Being pleased for others

I’ve had a week hearing about good things happening for many of my friends. These are people I love. Why does my mind take a brief detour on the way to being so pleased for them? Why is there that … Continue reading

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Getting closer

Whether it’s a friend you want to get to know on a deeper level or you yearn for a closer relationship with your partner, increased intimacy is the way to go. If we take intimacy to mean sharing, then we … Continue reading

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One celebration at a time

My best friend in high school was a brilliant sportswoman. She could play any sport well, but she was incredibly humble. I was appalling at sport and I was in awe of her ability. I knew whenever she had an … Continue reading

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Empathy boosts your self-esteem

When a friend or family member seems upset or angry, do you worry that you might somehow be the cause of their pain? What have I done to upset them? Did I say the wrong thing? How often do you … Continue reading

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People pleasers often disappoint

The sad truth about people who try to please everyone is that they often end up letting others down. So the thing they fear the most ends up happening. Sadly, the most important people in their lives are often the … Continue reading

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