Author Archives: Jo Lamble

Who cares for the carers?

As a clinical psychologist, I’m often seeing individuals who are caring for a loved one. Their partner or parent or child might have a chronic illness, which may or may not be terminal. Most people know by now that it … Continue reading

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When in doubt, don’t reassure

It might seem cruel not to reassure a child or partner or friend when they are anxious or upset, but often reassurance makes things worse. In psychological terms, reassuring someone can negatively reinforce unhealthy thoughts and behaviour. Most of us … Continue reading

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7 Super easy ways to communicate with your teenager

7 Super Easy Ways To Communicate With Your Teenager

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Do teenagers do what we say or watch what we do?

Do Teenagers Do What We Say Or Watch What We Do?

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What have you been up to?

It may come as a surprise to many people to learn that one of the worst questions you can ask another person is: What have you been up to? It’s a really common thing to ask; a bit like: How … Continue reading

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The intimacy equation

To have a truly intimate relationship with another person, you need two essential elements – vulnerability and empathy. In fact, a useful equation would be: Vulnerability + empathy = connection Too many people are suffering with the loneliness that comes … Continue reading

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How does empathy sound?

Just because we care deeply about another person’s pain doesn’t mean that we are necessarily good at showing them empathy. The most common conversation I have with couples is about how to show empathy. Even the loveliest people can struggle … Continue reading

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The danger of avoidance

Avoidance is an excellent strategy if we’re referring to staying out of dangerous situations. But avoidance should often be avoided! Avoiding anxiety-provoking situations increases anxiety. Avoiding difficult conversations with your partner, friend, child or colleague can allow situations to become … Continue reading

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Sitting with someone’s pain

When someone we love is suffering, we want to take away their pain. When they hurt, we hurt and it can feel cruel to sit there and do nothing. But what if our attempts to stop their pain actually makes … Continue reading

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Get the nod

Maybe you think you are saying all the right things to your partner to tell them that you understand how they’re feeling. But perhaps you’re not. One way to get a true sense of whether or not you are showing … Continue reading

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